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2025-03-30 10:20:06

Decentering relationships and losing friends

The way that people center their lives to the degree that they do around their romantic partner is alarming. Actually don't think it's healthy. If you Google the percentage of codependency in relationships, it's very high and we've normalized this in our society. People need to learn how to have friends, and a life outside of their relationships.

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Yes, I totally get that ! I have in fact met older women (50+) who absolutely did not care about dating anymore. A lot of them were enjoying their life as it is, exercising, traveling, pursuing hobbies... and they were glowing ! I still know a few but y'know, I feel like it would still be better to meet girls my age who are not actively seeking to date and talk about it 24/7. They would just be more relatable as we probably would be in the same stage in life (med school, moving out for the first time and all). I absolutely love older women who live for themselves though, they're inspiring and beautiful.

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I'm decentering men too, I'm 6 years solo for life and celibate (I'm cis-het, demi-sexual, 40F).

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Thank you for the recommandation ! If you don't mind me asking, how did you meet your friends ? They sound fun. I feel like my environment plays a part in all of this. I'm in med school so most of us are fairly young, with some being in their 30s and getting engaged or married. It does feel like high school sometimes.

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