Having sex hurts and low libido

I (Female 18) lost my virginity at 14 (spare me the lecture please) and most of the time, having sex hurts, or it just plainly doesnt feel good, or i feel basically nothing, especially when im deeper in a relationship. But, the main problem is: my libido is very low. I’ll be horny (sometimes, not a lot, more often when its been a while.) until i actually have the opportunity to do it (but you know it does happen that it feels good and im horny all the way). I have tried a lot of things, foreplay, lube, communication, toys, etc., yet my libido is still a problem. I thought it was my birth control pills, or my antidepressants but i stopped them and nothing changed. And i so want to be horny because i love it, and i want to have good intercourse. And no i’ve never had an orgasm so that also sucks. Theres no actual problem with my flower ive been checked multiple times, at least i think? It wasnt a gyno just a regular doctor. when i talked about never having an orgasm with my doctor she said to switch pills. Which i did. Now what?