Why do men say women are pickier ind eating when.men are so bold about their wants and demands?

I am attached but my single ffs are terrified to make any of their wants or needs known.

They won't tell a man they want a real LTR/marriage for fear of "scaring him off.". They won't say they want a provider/to stay home with their kids even if they do. They damn sure wouldn't say anything about expecting money.

Meanwhile men will go right ahead and say they "aren't ready" for a relationship or are in an ENM relationship and want something fun or whatever. And you can take it or leave it.

They try to get sex immediately. They send dick pics and try to get risque pics from you almost immediately. But if you asked for help with their babysitter or gas if you're travelling you'd be a gold digger right?

I don't understand how men can say women are so demanding and entitled and refuse to settle yet all the women I know (black, white, Asian, ages 18-60, professional and uneducated (I am attorney but I am a civil servant), kids and childless, never married and divorced, fat and thin, pretty and average, etc) are TERRIFIED of making any sort of demand that may turn off some man they don't even know. Where's men know what they want, aren't afraid of stating it and if you're with it cool, if not move out the way. Honestly I wish wed learn from y'all! Men always know what they want and don't apologize for it.